As children, the cartoons and films we watched helped shape the perceptions we had about ourselves and about each other. I identified with superheroes, princesses along with the Care Bears. I figured I had superpowers, I believed that somehow even though my start in life would have been a bit crappy, by some stroke of luck I’d garner the attention of a distinguished fellow, who seek me out and alter my circumstances. Lastly, I figured I could beam my love & care toward someone and it would cure them of whatever anger or evil they possessed as did the concern Bears. Fairy-tale movies specifically began shaping my ideals and future interaction using the opposite sex unbeknownst in my experience. Fairy-tale movies had three components true to life didn’t; romance, adventure, plus a happy ending where love always overcame the obstacles browsing its way. I’m sure I’m not alone, in focusing in on these 3 things as it pertained to how my future interactions and relationships will be. After all, women innately have a need and desire to get protected, provided for and chosen. Men naturally wish to impress, provide for and feel needed by the woman they love and are with.
Recently while i was watching the Disney movie, The tiny Mermaid, I looked a bit closer at its fairy-tale story-line, and I began to remember the rest of the fairy-tale story-lines I’ve watched and loved from childhood. I spotted there are real, practical love lessons in these fairy-tales that I missed altogether. Maybe, had I had the ability to grasp them earlier, they may have helped me navigate better in relationships as well as in love. Below are three very necessary love lessons I took from fairy-tale story-lines. They are lessons we still need to learn as adults. These 3 lessons in love are actually really needed in our marketplace culture of instant gratification. Our picture products it means to love is extremely distorted because selfish, manipulative love messaging has been projected. The sustainability of marriages is failing because of this.
Love Means Sacrifice
Name one fairy-tale that did not require someone to must make a huge sacrifice for the love they wanted? Within the Little Mermaid, Ariel sacrificed her voice for legs, despite the fact that her voice was the only sure way of Prince Eric knowing she was who he wanted. To sacrifice means you’re happy to give up something in the interest of a better cause, within this example love. It means you value the love you seek to gain in than whatever it is you will need to give up for it. For many people you won’t ever get it back, but also for a period of time, you feel that which you are going after, is much more important. Every fairy-tale ever created required one or both of the lovers to give up something they valued and maybe even needed in order to be able to love the other. They acted unselfishly since they knew the love they’d receive was far more valuable and necessary. They valued love, but specifically love for each other more than anything else. They proved merit the love they sought, not due to their sacrifices, but because of these ability to be unselfish. As a result they were often capable to have the love and be restored in the things they quit.
Love Must Overcome Adversity
Prince Eric were required to fight Lady Ursula and kill her before he and Ariel could possibly be together and liberal to explore their passion for each other. In every fairy-tale, the prince and princess undergo much adversity before they could truly be together and live happily ever after. Their love goes through a series of trials, tests and adversity before they reap any benefits and before they really are able to be together and explore love. We often don’t value might know about haven’t had to work or fight for. Same thing goes for love.
Love Requires Making the decision
Before Prince Eric fought Ursula, he decided the romance for Ariel was worthwhile. Just as Ariel decided her passion for Prince Eric was worth her letting go of her voice. They both made a decision to fight and to make the necessary sacrifices for love. They both valued the romance they shared enough to make a decision it was worth risking everything for. They decided separately, as individuals, from the beginning. They decided we were holding going to go all the way to see their love materialize, before they ever got into battle. Making the decision is the thing that gave them the force, courage, and stick-to-itiveness to help keep going in the fight, and ultimately win the battle for his or her love. As a result, they reach live happily ever after, together. Their love was them that it was worth fighting for and powerful enough to overcome every obstacle that came out against it.
Much like me, you were probably oblivious to those important lessons fairy-tale story-lines have attempted to share with us over time. We selectively simply want to focus on the happy ending and think we ourselves are able to have the happy ending with no fight, without the sacrifices, and without deciding to love. Absolutely not! If the make-believe characters didn’t get yourself a pass, we, who live in real life, most certainly don’t either. Love is not selfish. Our favorite characters showed us they were willing to stop trying things that they loved and cherished as the love they needed, and were searching for was more important. Love requires us to battle for it. We have to prove ourselves merit its rewards. We must learn to value the love we receive. The battles have to be won before you will find any rewards in daily life and in love.
After Ariel and Prince Eric overcame the battles, when they sacrificed, after they decided the love they shared was worth every penny, then they were able to live the happily ever after. Not before. There wasn’t any happily ever after until following your blood, sweat and tears that proved them value the love they desired. They went into battle willingly and were serious about fighting to the death for the love they believed in. They made the decision to love wholeheartedly in the first place. They felt their love was worth it and the sacrifices and also the battles did not cause them to become give up on their love, nor get them to look for a potentially easier a person to love. They stuck by their decisions also, since they stuck it out, were able to enjoy a lasting, happy and fulfilling love with the person they sacrificed, fought and decided on.
Many seasoned couples in love will tell you after they have outlasted the difficulties, the fighting, the adversity that each couple faces, they are happier, more fulfilled, and expense and love each other more deeply. The hard work makes sense. Did you catch that? Effort, yes it’s symbolic of love. There is no such thing as instant gratification when you seek to build love with someone. Lasting love can only be measured after a while. Dust off your favorite childhood fairy-tale to see for yourself the lessons we should’ve learned at their store then, but must learn now if we seek to win in love and be able to sustain that love. Much like there are forces that really work to bring two people together in love, there are also forces at the office to tear love apart. Love is the fact that powerful. So, don’t believe the people, that tell you, you can’t have the fairy-tale ending you imagine, sure you can! Congratulations, you know it comes with a high price. It’s up to you to decide if it’s worth every penny!